Investing My Heart in Motherhood Each Day

Do you have a vision for your parenting?

I find I need to renew my vision regularly so as not to get stuck in reactive mode. I need to be proactive in caring for and raising up these little souls that have been entrusted to me.

I so easily slip into auto-pilot. Do school, read story, play game, make lunch… – it takes less energy than being aware of my children’s “heart” needs and meeting them.

Its so easy to be busy with the work of homemaking and schooling that I often want to put the mothering aside for when its more convenient.

I need to remind myself of my priorities.

I need to use my first and best energy all day for my husband and children – the other things will follow.

When I am reminded of my vision, I am inspired!

I want to raise children that love God with their whole hearts and are ready to serve Him.

It takes more energy to be proactive in building character, to be led by God each moment and not settling for just getting by…

I want to be  sewing into my children’s lives and characters each day.

It takes more energy  to sit down with them and say: now lets talk about this, than to quickly brush it off.

I don’t want to miss the few opportunities I have to shepherd their hearts.

I want to do it while there is still time!

Have you read Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp?

“Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.” Psalm 127 v 3


Why Are They Abandoning the Faith?

David de Bruyn of New Covenant Baptist Church in Johannesburg is a Biblical and deeply thought-provoking writer. I learn so much and am so encouraged by reading the articles on his blog. I have been so inspired by his articles on Pre-Evangelism for Your Children that I decided to do a series summarizing (or writing in my own words) this series. I am sure I don’t do his writings justice so please read the real thing – but for what its worth, here is my version with some of my own thoughts and applications added.

Statistics tell us that 6 out of 10 children who grow up in Evangelical churches abandon the faith completely in or before their 20’s and do not return even when they have children – they are effectively abandoning the faith – a faith that was probably never very real or meaningful to them. They abandon the faith either by word or by action or both.

There are many possible reasons for this – watered-down ineffective youth programmes, age-segragation in the churches, lack of headship and leadership by the father’s in the homes, entertainment media that draws hearts away from God and is used in many youth programs in place of the Word of God. But there is something more to consider… a child is not an empty slate but everything in their childhood will contribute to their ‘openness to’ or ‘rejection of’ – Christ and the gospel message. What is written on a child’s pages will contribute much to their desire to believe God and to be a faithful disciple of Christ. How a child responds to truths such as “Jesus is the Son of God”, “Hell really exists” and “God is deserving of our love and devotion, awe and reverence”, will be shaped by their “filter” of interpretations, feelings and thoughts even before they fully understand these truths.

As seen in the parable of the sower, our children’s hearts can be likened to a farmer’s soil – whether the ground the seed falls upon is rocky, thorny, shallow or fertile will be influenced by how we as parents raise, disciple, train and teach our children.

God’s grace and redemptive power can overcome the lack of preparation of that soil – and without God’s grace and power, the preparation is meaningless – BUT God chooses to use parents to prepare the soil of a child’s heart.

One of the best ways of preparing the soil of our children’s hearts is prayer. We need to pray daily and fervently for our children and for God’s wisdom and guidance as their parents. God is pleased to work in good fertile soil.

Here is the crux of the matter: many 20 or 30-something people today are abandoning the faith because their upbringing was primarily a secular one – filled with lusts and entertainment that drew their hearts from God – with a thin layer of Biblical facts over the top.

As the Word fails to take root in the hostile soil of their hearts, they are forced to reevaluate their beliefs and bit by bit – throw out the thin layer of facts that they once believed.

The question is – how is the soil made fertile – or hostile? What is a parent’s role in the child’s life? What does the Bible say about how to teach, train, disciple and love our children so that the soil of their hearts will be receptive to the Word of God and the work of the Holy Spirit in their lives?

What a privilege that God uses us as parents in our children’s lives and what an awesome responsibility that should evoke the fear of God in our lives and our parenting!

Part 2 – More Than Facts

“But he that received seed into the good ground is he that heareth the word, and understandeth [it]; which also beareth fruit, and bringeth forth, some an hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty.” Matthew 13 v 23

Encouraging Our Daughters

I’m sure you agree – its hard work being a girl growing up in today’s world. So much of the wrong role models and so many things to filter out. Our daughters need all the encouragement they can get – especially from us.

I so want my daughters to be encouraged and to know how much they are valued and loved.

Here are steps that I have taken to that end…

  • Little notes under the pillow. I love to write little letters of appreciation to my older daughter, (she is 7 and her sister is 2) telling her how much I love and value her, or complimenting her on an area of her character that she is growing in or just a little smile on paper. I was inspired to do this by Teri Maxwell – hmmm, its been a while and its so easy to procrastinate this one – but its so worth it when I see her reaction – it really encourages her and makes her feel special and that “I notice” her and she loves to write notes in reply. My little girl has also taken to “writing” little notes to Mommy and “posting” them under my pillow – so sweet to find at bedtime.
  • Special journal – I purchased a special book (spiral bound with a hand painted rose on the front) to write little messages to my 7 year old daughter – to the effect of “I so enjoy and appreciate your love for flowers. I love the way you bring them to me from the garden and your appreciation of them makes me notice and enjoy them even more. Can you draw a picture of your favourite flower here for me?
  • Before bed  / rest time chats – at the beginning of rest time after the little ones are down for their naps, my daughter and I do our Bible reading together and then we chat or draw together for a bit. I also like to spend a little extra time with her after the others have been cuddled and sung to and are settled so that she can have the attention she needs without interruption and we can talk about the day in a relaxed way together.
  • Once a week girl time – We schedule a time once a week – usually during rest time to do nails, hair and other girl stuff together.

How do you encourage your daughters? I would love some ideas as we are still quite near the beginning of our parenting journey.

“And he said unto her, Daughter, be of good comfort: thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace.” Luke 8 v 48

The Very Last Time

The years with little ones are probably the busiest, the craziest, the fullest and the most demanding for a mother. The days can rush by, some feeling like we are merely coping rather than living life to the full.

But I’ve come to believe that the ‘little’ years are also the richest and the most rewarding! The ‘little’ years are the time when new little soldiers for Christ are being shaped in our homes. We have a unique but brief opportunity to impact their lives, to sew into their hearts, to add to their characters, to love as Christ loves, to build precious memories and to put aside our own agenda’s to be available to our little ones.

I want to savour and enjoy every moment of dirty floors, messy rooms, boisterous noise and general chaos!

Who knows when it will be the very last time my child picks me a flower from the garden or delightedly slips a little note under my pillow. They grow up so fast and I will never know till its over that it was the last time – the last time they would excitedly bring me a picture they had drawn or a story they had written, excitedly ask me to come and see what they have built or invite me into their tent with them. The very last time!

We celebrate the firsts – the first smile, the first tooth, the first step, the first word – but we often miss the lasts. The lasts don’t come with a warning – they are here and then gone forever, only to be looked back on with fond memories.

I want to remember this every day when I am busy or feeling overwhelmed or tired. I want to enjoy my children! I want the Lord to draw my heart towards my family and my children so that I might cherish the gifts He has blessed me with.

“And again, I will put my trust in him. And again, Behold I and the children which God hath given me.” Hebrews 2 v 13

Just Wondering…

Just wondering…

Why do we call it BIRTH Control?

Why not CONCEPTION Control?

Could it be because it doesn’t always prevent conception?

Maybe its because it prevents babies from being born – BIRTH Control!

Maybe we should call it BABY Control.

Then again, I think thats a bit too close to home. Better stick with BIRTH Control – its much easier to keep our heads in the sand.

Hubby and I are so sad that we fell into the “birth” control trap for all those years. Children are such a blessing – and the Bible calls them a reward from the Lord!

Have mercy on us, Oh Lord!

“And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me.” Matthew 18v5

See Also:

From Business to Babies: Our Life’s Puzzle Part 2

Thoughts on Babies and Birth Control

The Bible and Bible Story Books – Our Life’s Puzzle Part 3

I’d like to talk a little about Bible story books – those “bible’s for kids” that you can get at most Christian book stores these days – those little story books that are often gifts at baby dedications and read in children’s churches and Sunday schools.

But before I do… I’d like to tell you a bit of our story…

My hubby and I have been on a long journey the past couple of years. We were active church members for about 15 years (not sure what that makes us) but only in the last couple of years have we really started to study the Bible for ourselves. We’ve read the Bible (or bits of it) lots before this – we did 2 years of evening Bible school but amazingly we never managed to comprehensively read or study the Bible ourselves. I think, in a way, we didn’t think that we needed to. We looked up all the verses that we were taught us in Bible school, we read Proverbs every day before work, we read the Psalms in the evening and we read bits of the Bible during our quiet times. We read from many different versions of the Bible. During that time I remember feeling that I wasn’t spiritual enough because most of the Bible was not that interesting to me.

As we grew in our parenting and homeschooling  journeys, we began to be inspired by some awesome families and I started to wonder about the Bible. My hubby and I read a fascinating book and I realized that I could no longer coast along listening to what everybody else told me the Bible said, but I’d have to study it for myself. The crux of the matter for me and the question I really started to ask myself was this: Do I really believe the Bible is the true inspired word of God?

“All scripture [is] given by inspiration of God, and [is] profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness” 2 Timothy 3 v 16

–  or not?

If not, then how could I believe any of it? How could I trust what God said if I wasn’t sure which bits were true and which weren’t? Also, did I believe that God was capable of preserving His inspired Word throughout the ages and in my own language so that I could read and understand it and not have to rely on someone who knows Greek to explain it to me?

This was a scary place to be because the other side of the coin was this: If God’s word is true, if it is the inspired word of God then I’d have to believe all of it – even the parts that I don’t like. This meant that what people had always told me about parts of the New Testament being “because of the culture of that time and no longer relevant today” was wrong – I’d have to believe it all.

Long story short, after a couple of months of pondering, I decided to take the plunge and to believe God’s Word was true, inspired and available for me to read and study in my own language. The New Testament fulfills the Old Testament – Christ is the fulfillment of all things and the Bible is God’s inspired Word to us.

I still felt intimidated by all the pastors and Bible scholars who knew so much more than I did. How could I read and learn for myself from the Bible when they knew so much more than me? Let me tell you a well-kept secret:

That isn’t God’s plan!!!

“Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” 2 Timothy 2 v 15

God’s plan is for us to study His Word ourselves! He wants us to know His Word and depend on it and SPEAK it daily!

“But his delight [is] in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.” Psalm 1 v 2

He wants us to read HIS WORD and know it and be able to CONTEND FOR OUR FAITH.

“…it was needful for me to write unto you, and exhort [you] that ye should earnestly contend for the faith which was once delivered unto the saints.” Jude 1 v 3

Thats not to say that we can’t be blessed and encouraged and taught by Godly men and especially by our husbands – but it is our own responsibility and WE CAN study God’s word ourselves.

I now see the Bible very differently – everything I read counts. Everything in there is there for a reason, can be studied, meditated on, thought about, pondered upon. Its amazing the difference it makes when you know you can trust the whole Bible – every bit of it.

Then hubby and I started to learn how to study the Bible ourselves. This has been so freeing for me – now instead of asking a “knowledgeable” person the answer to my questions, I am able to go to the Bible for my answer – and if I am stuck I am able to ask my hubby and trust God to lead him in His God ordained position to teach me from God’s word.

“And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home:” 1 Cor 14 v 35a

This is such a blessing to me as I find myself able to explain my question or my dilemma far more easily to my husband who knows me so well, rather than someone else. Of course there are times when we both seek the counsel of Godly men whom we know will answer us from God’s Word.

The way we are learning to study the Bible is this:

If I want to know what the Bible says on a particular subject: let’s say looking after our bodies, FITNESS, etc. (this is something on my mind a lot lately).

I would start by making a list of all the words that I might find in the Bible relating to this topic:

  • fitness
  • exercise
  • health
  • stewardship
  • temple of Holy Spirit
  • their god is their stomach
  • body

I would pray and ask God to help me and lead me to the verses as I search. I would try to remember any phrases that I know are in verses like these.

Then I would take my list and open a Bible online, I would click where it says “Search the Bible” and then do a search on each of these words. Of course, in the days before computers this would have been a lot more tedious using concordances if they were available or even reading through to find the verses yourself. We are so blessed to be able to get an instant list of the verses containing each word.

Then I word print out my list of verses and during my Bible reading time, I would slowly read each verse in context in my Bible. (I don’t like to do the actual reading online as I get distracted and am less able to focus on what God is saying to me as I read than when I am reading my own Bible.) Each verse that I read adds to my picture of what the Bible says about this topic. Each verse adds a new dimension and helps me understand the subject better.

Its totally amazing when you let the Bible interpret itself  – when you discover the meaning of words in the Bible by looking at all the times the Bible uses that actual word in context – you really are able to see for yourself what the Bible means!

We have discovered some amazing things! For example:

  • Did you know that Jesus meant the parables that he told to not be understood by everyone but only those who had “ears to hear”? Read the gospels and see for yourself.
  • Did you know that God actually hardened Pharoah’s heart (as a judgement) after each plague so that He would not release the Israelites and bring more plagues on Egypt? Read in Exodus and see for yourself.

It has been such a breakthrough for us. We certainly don’t see ourselves as superior to any other Bible teachers or Christians – but our AUTHORITY has changed – our final authority is now truly the WORD OF GOD!

So, after that very long story 🙂 back to my original topic.

I have become more and more concerned as I read the Bible for myself and as my husband teaches our family from God’s Word just how prevalent Bible story books are – everywhere! – and how they often replace the Bible in children’s churches, Sunday schools and in our homes. I grew up with Bible story books and they were great fun to read – they had some good stuff in them – and in those days at least the pictures were more realistic than the sweet little cartoon pictures of Jesus and His disciples in the modern bible story books – but my picture of Jesus was very different to what I am finding as I study the Bible for myself.

Can you imagine if we were taught Shakespeare in cute little cartoon pictures with easy words to read –  because it’s easier to understand? Don’t you think that’s kind of missing the point! Imagine what our picture of Shakespeare would be if that was our main exposure to his work.

How can we teach the Bible – God’s Holy Word – to our children by taking the stories out of context, leaving out many of the important details and endings, adding cute little pictures to them – and then telling them that this is God’s Word?

“And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and [from] the things which are written in this book.” Revelation 22 v 19

Can you imagine what view of God our children are forming from these books? Do we realize how incomplete our picture of Bible history is from bible story books? I am constantly amazed when I read well-known bible stories in the actual Bible how much there is that I didn’t know and how much richer and fuller the stories are. They speak to me of God – of His character, His plan and His power – a perfect picture of God’s justice and grace.

What is our picture of God – how do we see Him ? How does the Bible depict Him? Do we really want to remove so much of His power, His anger, His majesty, His might and His judgement and replace it with sweet stories? I for one, do not!

Our children love to read and listen to their Dad teach them from the Bible. I think it would be an insult to them to be told that they are “too little” for the real Bible. They love the action, the power and the reality of God’s Word. They love that they are trusted with it and can delve in for themselves. They are growing up knowing and learning to understand God’s Word from a young age. They are growing up with a truly Biblical picture of God.

“This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.” Joshua 1 v 8

Our Story Part 1 – The Beginning

Our Story Part 2 – Business to Babies

Homeschooling and Public School Confessions

I am so inspired and blessed by our homeschooling journey – and while I believe that each family should hear from God on this issue, I hope and pray that each family would prayerfully consider homeschooling! I would like to share some inspiring things I have read from homeschooling families.

This is actually from a comment on a wonderful blog by KimC called in a shoe. I thought the person (Tami) who wrote this comment just put it so well and had such valuable things to say that I had to quote some excerpts from it!

Read the full comment here:

 In my opinion, the worst thing that he learned in public school was not evolution (although he certainly was taught that), but rather the idea that education is the answer to all problems. That is a very basic tenet of humanism – that with enough education, we can do anything. It sounds good to Christians at first, because we can’t love our God if we don’t know Him, but that isn’t at all what humanists mean. They truely mean that man is the be-all and end-all, and so if man can just learn enough, he can save himself. But there is only one path to salvation for mankind, and it isn’t education. Another very dangerous idea is the idea of the innate goodness of man – if it weren’t for corrupting circumstances, man would choose good, the whole “noble savage” concept. These teachings don’t just happen in biology class, where most Christian kids are taught to keep their guard up, they are taught as an integral part of almost every subject, but certainly all the humanities. I think they are very subtle, and kids from Christian homes have their worldviews shaped without even realizing it. I think most Christian parents don’t realize it either, because they attended the same humanistic government schools, or else Christian schools like mine where they were taught exactly the same things as in public school, just with a Bible class added.
My son has a very good friend from an observant Jewish family, and every year he invited around a dozen school friends to his family’s Passover Seder. There would be friends attending from 6 continents, and every major world religion. When he was in 9th grade, I though that was so cool, that he could see Passover in a Jewish home, just as Jesus observed it. I told several of my friends about that, until one day my son stopped me and said, “Mom, it’s just a party. It’s just like a Christmas party, but with a lot more wine.” He went on to explain that everyone really respected each other’s religion, in a cultural sort of way, but that none of his friends really believed their religions except the Christians, and most of them didn’t either. You see, in spite of their parents’ beliefs, these kids were all humanists, putting their faiths in their supposedly excellent high school educations, and striving for even more excellent college educations. He has friends now from his graduating class in all the Ivies except one.
But God is a merciful and forgiving God, and in spite of our foolishness in raising our first son, He has blessed us, and him. He just got home today from his first year at an excellent and very academic Christian university. He had a fabulous freshman year and has grown a great deal spiritually. He was just amazed that every class he took was taught with a Biblical worldview. (Even abstract math, he said!) I pray every day that God will continue to use others to teach him the things I failed to teach him in elementary and high school.
To make an already very long story shorter, we pulled our second son out of public school at the beginning of high school, and our two daughters have never been to school. We are doing a much better job teaching them.
I hear so many people quote the “salt and light” verse in reference to public school, but they seem to quit reading right there. Matt 5:13 says, “You are the salt of the world. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men.” Sadly, I think that is exactly what happens to many children from Christian families. Years of humanistic teachings cause them to lose their saltiness, and many are never salty again. And they are indeed trampled by men.
I don’t know the end of the story, but my God does. I know that we would never have met most of his friends if he hadn’t attended public school. I consider it my job to evangelize them as much as my son’s. Several of them are truth seekers, so maybe God did lead us intentionally into that circumstance to meet them. Or maybe He didn’t, but He is willing and able to work with us to further His kingdom out of our not-so-ideal choices in education. I only know that the best that we can do is to follow Him to the best of our ability at the place we are right now. There is no “redo” of the past, but that shouldn’t keep us from changing our actions in the present.

I was also very impacted by this article written by Kelly Crawford of Generation Cedar when she still had her Hearts For Family blog. The article appears on June Fuentes Homeschool Corner Blog. This blog has much encouragement for Biblical Homeschooling. I relate completely to the things Kelly experienced in this article. It is such an honest expression of her experiences.

True Confessions of a Public High School Graduate

So there I was—my very first day in a public school, twelve years old, donning my most fashionable clothing, walking into the gymnasium full of glaring, unfamiliar faces. I was finally in the “real world”. For the previous seven years, I had attended a small Christian school and my soul ached to go to a “real school”. I liked it. But I admit, the first few days shocked me. And they should have. I had heard young people curse before, but not like it was their native language. I had even heard coarse jokes, sexual innuendos, and such; but I had not been aware of a society of children who wallowed in it. To my great detriment, there did come a day when I was no longer shocked. That day would change my life, my character, and my destiny forever.

I attended public high school in the eighties. (I have heard things have gotten even worse.) I boarded a bus around 7:15 a.m. There, as my character was still being molded, I witnessed cruelty, obscenity, and a total disregard for anything moral. When the bus approached Cindy’s house, everyone scurried to share a seat with someone else, even if there were three of four to that seat. There was always an empty seat for Cindy. Cindy was overweight, and poor. Her countenance revealed years of social abandonment and cruel regard. “Don’t sit with me! Sit over there! Oh no, she’s coming over here!” were the typical comments that welcomed Cindy onto the bus every morning.

Two of the “older” kids were usually in the back seat making out. The school bus seats were very high, for safety, (Ha! Save their bodies, destroy their souls!) and so one could do just about anything without being seen by the driver.

At only 8:00 in the morning, I had already witnessed enough wickedness to last a lifetime. Now we were at school. Soon I learned it was really cool to make fun of your teachers and hold a general disdain for any kind of academics. (When the majority of your day is spent with peers, they are naturally the ones for whom you want to “be cool”.) This was a conflict as I had a natural desire to please both peers and teachers. I spent the first few weeks of school crying. The new student has to be “broken in”, so all the girls made fun of me—for anything they could think of. When and if one persevered, this may pass.

Breaks between classes—that is what we looked forward to. You had one of several agendas: If you had a boyfriend/girlfriend, you must flee to him, exchange your fifth love letter of the day, possibly exchange some physical affection, and go back to class starry-eyed. Or if no lover, then you would flock together with your cronies and get the latest gossip. “Fight at 3:30 at the Shell station”…”Kevin and Amy broke up!”…”We made Mrs. Smith cry again today!” These were the gentle things of public school—the “innocence” if you will, of being a teenager—this was “real” life.

Then there were the other conversations exchanged here and there, before school, in the hall, at lunch, at PE, just about anytime. Those things that had shocked me at first. Those things, which having heard them enough times, began to be normal. “So-and-so lost her virginity last night”—she was fourteen. Parties, alcohol, drugs, etc., all very commonplace after awhile. Day after day, year after year, conditioning took place and I was no longer the frog jumping into boiling water.

So, after a year or two, I was one of them. Any reserve I held for sacred things had long dissolved. My Christian upbringing, the principles my parents had tried so diligently to instill had, at the very least, retreated so deeply into the recesses of my character as to appear invisible.

For thirteen years, the effects of this transformation gripped my life. I had once commented to my father, as he tried to make a decision about my going to public school, “You have raised me with a strong foundation…I want to go and share Christ with those kids…I am strong enough”. I was now rebellious, angry, confused, and wallowing in sin.

Today, by the grace and mercy of our Savior, I am a forgiven sinner, seeking after godliness, despite my many failures. So, “it all turned out to be OK in the end, right?” Wrong. The whole point of this article is to emphasize that the consequences of sin cannot be avoided, and they leave an ugly, painful trench in every life—even the life surrendered to God. I admit that my life is on a much smoother course than it could have been, by God’s grace. But did my renewed love for the Lord repair the damage that resulted from years of breaking His law, and being a companion to the wicked? Not a chance. I struggle much, and I know from where my struggle comes. And my heart grieves for the flippancy prevailing among parents this very day, as they turn their children over to Satan’s company to be devoured. I certainly do not blame my parents for my years of rebellion. I do not even blame them for sending me to public school—they didn’t know of an alternative. They did what they thought they had to do.

But now, on the other side of it, I am not ashamed to boldly challenge parents to think about their responsibility for the sanctity of their children. I cannot watch someone driving recklessly toward a cliff and not try my best to stop them! As Christians, we must search the Scriptures for wisdom in raising our children. And we must stop justifying our methods by saying, “Well, it doesn’t say_______anywhere in the Bible!” We must not see how little we can get away with, but rather strive for holiness, pressing toward the mark, seeking to resemble Christ as much as lies in us. I would plead with parents to realize the responsibility of being accountable for the children the Lord has given them. We need to be urgent, determined and devoted to guarding their hearts and minds. Let us commit to raising not mediocre children, bruised and wounded as they enter adulthood, but strong and mighty men and women, a godly generation with a legacy of purity!

Kimberly from Raising Olives mentions these 4 points in “How we Homeschool: An Overview” on her blog. It is such a well written article and I agree completely. She elaborates on each point here.

1. Christ is King.  We choose to examine everything by the the standard of His Word.

2. We try to educate in a natural, as we live type of style, concentrating on teaching and training our children all the time and in all circumstances.

3. People/children are able to learn even when the the instruction is not aimed directly at their level.

4. Relationships are most important.

Everyone agrees with this point when it comes right down to it.  (What is more important your college degree or your wife and kids?)  This a big permeating principle of the Bible.  It is an all pervasive assumption in scripture that God is a relational God.  Throughout scripture He reveals Himself in terms of relationships.  He is our Father.  He sent His Son.  The church is the bride of Christ.

So what does this have to do with how we homeschool?  Two things:

A. We want to learn together as much as possible.  We do not want to send our 12 year old off to her room with her pile of books, and our 11 year old somewhere else with her pile, and our 10 year old off with his pile, etc.  We want to learn together, to develop relationships while we develop knowledge and to be able to learn from each other.

B. We say no to a lot of activities that would result in the same type of fragmentation of our family that I described in point A.  We don’t want our 12 year old running off to ballet, while the 11 year old goes to horse back riding, and the 10 year old has guitar lessons.  This type of fragmentation is worse (in our opinion) because not only does it draw the children away from each other, it draws the family away from the home.

These articles and their writers are an inspiration to me in our very young homeschooling journey – and I hope they are to you too.

“And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.”

” Deuteronomy 6 v 6,7