Encouraging Our Daughters

I’m sure you agree – its hard work being a girl growing up in today’s world. So much of the wrong role models and so many things to filter out. Our daughters need all the encouragement they can get – especially from us.

I so want my daughters to be encouraged and to know how much they are valued and loved.

Here are steps that I have taken to that end…

  • Little notes under the pillow. I love to write little letters of appreciation to my older daughter, (she is 7 and her sister is 2) telling her how much I love and value her, or complimenting her on an area of her character that she is growing in or just a little smile on paper. I was inspired to do this by Teri Maxwell – hmmm, its been a while and its so easy to procrastinate this one – but its so worth it when I see her reaction – it really encourages her and makes her feel special and that “I notice” her and she loves to write notes in reply. My little girl has also taken to “writing” little notes to Mommy and “posting” them under my pillow – so sweet to find at bedtime.
  • Special journal – I purchased a special book (spiral bound with a hand painted rose on the front) to write little messages to my 7 year old daughter – to the effect of “I so enjoy and appreciate your love for flowers. I love the way you bring them to me from the garden and your appreciation of them makes me notice and enjoy them even more. Can you draw a picture of your favourite flower here for me?
  • Before bed  / rest time chats – at the beginning of rest time after the little ones are down for their naps, my daughter and I do our Bible reading together and then we chat or draw together for a bit. I also like to spend a little extra time with her after the others have been cuddled and sung to and are settled so that she can have the attention she needs without interruption and we can talk about the day in a relaxed way together.
  • Once a week girl time – We schedule a time once a week – usually during rest time to do nails, hair and other girl stuff together.

How do you encourage your daughters? I would love some ideas as we are still quite near the beginning of our parenting journey.

“And he said unto her, Daughter, be of good comfort: thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace.” Luke 8 v 48


Dresses For Graceful Girls

Feminity, elegance, modesty, purity – these are lost virtues of girlhood and lost values. My hubby and I are determined to teach these values to our girls. I feel rather inadequate in teaching values to my girls that I have never had myself, but we are learning from God’s Word and the Holy Spirit is leading us. I am learning right alongside my girls!

I know how important the internal is – the state of our hearts counts more than the external. I have always struggled with being feminine and graceful; – but its my hearts desire to be so and I know that God is faithful to complete the work He has begun in us! I am also concerned with the external! There is not much value placed on feminity or modesty in today’s clothing styles for girls or ladies. Trying to find clothes to buy for our girls is impossible if we are looking for beautiful, modest, feminine attire. So – we gotta make them! I am quite new to sewing but I am learning lots and enjoying it so much.

I recently made a 1780s portrait dress for my oldest girl. I found this quite a challenge for a novice sewing Mom – but it was lots of fun! She enjoyed being part of the process! I bought the pattern from here.

The outer layer of the bodice is a very fine delicate fabric and rather challenging to sew on and the pattern was crazy – shapes I have never seen before having to fit together!

But it’s done and it’s beautiful!

I love the big sash with the bow at the back.

One problem – we tried using poppers, then hooks and eyes down the back of the bodice but they don’t stay properly closed. I decided to lace it criss-cross down the back with ribbon. I am still trying to decide between eyelets and ribbon loops to lace the ribbon through. Any advice or experience would be appreciated!

We have had to be creative in finding other clothes that are feminine and modest while I get up to speed with my sewing. This skirt we bought in the ladies section of a store and I altered it to fit my daughter at the waist but kept the length. It worked beautifully.

This very simple tunic dress I made from a simple pyjama dress pattern without the sleeves. We enjoyed making it together and my daughter loved picking out the ribbon and roses to decorate it with.

I have a wonderful friend who has made some beautiful clothes for our girls. I have just given her the material and an idea to copy and she has done it without even a pattern. What a blessing!

This dress…

…and this skirt.

This was an basic tunic made from some stunning material with sequin swirls on it. It was easy to make and looks so good – my daughter loves it as she sparkles in the sunlight!

Homestead Blessings has been a wonderful help to us as well – we just love those movies. They make the sewing seem so simple and they are so good at adapting beautiful old tablecloths and sheets for aprons or beautiful items of clothing.

I would love to hear what you have done for your girl’s clothing or if you had had a similar dilemma!

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31 v 10